The worst week of my life.

[SoSoftClaire]

Josie, I'm so so so sorry. I didn't even know you were pregnant! Some friend I am!

But I just want to tell you something; my Mom had 5 miscarriages before she had my older sister. She had two more, making it 3 daughters all together. Keep trying, it may take a lot, but don't give up on your dream. And please don't feel like you failed your husband, this happens to so many women, it's not your fault or anyone. I'm so sorry you feel that way, and that your holiday is ruined. Most of all, I'm so sorry that happened.

I once had a dream I had a miscarriage and was depressed for weeks, and I wasn't even trying to get pregnant! So I can only begin to imagine what you're going through.

[WarmSnuggles]

So very sorry to hear this, josie :( It's very common for women who miscarry not to seek emotional support, or to withdraw from all their support; feeling guilty and like you failed can cause you not to turn to your husband for mutual support, and increase both of your pain and loneliness. If at all possible, contact a counselor in your area-there may be a support group for families who've lost young children or miscarried. It can be very helpful to know that, much as it feels like it, you're not alone, and not a failure. My cousin had an ectopic pregnancy, then a miscarriage, then a baby that died full term (umbilical cord strangulation 3 days before her due date) before having 2 healthy girls. Don't give up, and don't let yourself or your husband spiral into defeat and depression. It sure as **** can feel like it, but don't let this be the end of your world.

[Chun-Li]

That's terrible. I'm so sorry to hear about such awful news.

[thebeth]

oh that's terrible!
Listen to me, it isn't too late and you did NOT fail your husband okay?
My mom wanted to be a mother too... She got married much later than most people and had a miscarriage when she was 40 years old. I'm her oldest daughter and I only came around when she was 42! My dad was either 43 or 44. I'm 20 now and they're still great parents, even though most of my friends have younger parents. You can still have a baby. Find out what your options are. Miscarriages happen, and of course you should feel the way you do. It will probably be the saddest time in your life and you can't be blamed for that. Just know that it isn't your fault and hope isn't lost. Spend the holiday with your husband, you can help eachother get through this time.

[MustBeJewel]

I'm so sorry, Josie :( I've never been through one myself but I can only imagine how painful it is for you. We're all here to support you any way we can.

*big hugs*

[Goddess Daine]

josiekat, my heart goes out to you and your husband. You definately need to talk to him about this. I'm sure he knows that it is not your fault. Please don't take this the wrong way, but God had a better plan for this baby. When the time is right He will see to it that you get another chance. Sorry to sound a bit preachy...

I have a friend that had 4 miscarriages before having two beautiful, wonderful kids. She and her husband had tried for years before it finally happened.

Please take the time to grieve and be with each other. I'm sorry that you feel the holidays are ruined for you. Please know that we are here for you whenever you need to talk.

[iamtobi]

Oh, lovely girl, I am so sorry.

Please don't blame yourself. I'm so glad that you reached out to the board, we all love you here. You're a wonderfully kind and compassionate person, and you'll be a great mother. <3

[LadyJasmine]

Oh Josie, I'm so very sorry.....I wish there was something more I could do, but just *very gentle, supportive, hugs*

[DialgaBritesMom]

****{Josiekat}}} I am so very sad for you. Allow the grief and anger their day in court, so they don't swallow you up, and *do* please talk with your husband about your feelings of letting him down, which as so many others have said, is simply not true and he needs to know you feel that way so he can reassure you with his own words about that.

Miscarriages are certainly not uncommon, and you are *so* not alone, even though you might feel that you are at the moment, particularly with all the festivities going on around you. Take comfort in each other, and in the future, once you can think about it again.

Many hugs reaching out to you...
Nan

[Mirakat]

I too just want to give you comfort hugs and support right now. Your feelings are normal feelings and you just need rest and time. We are all here for you Josie.