Back after a long hiatus...missed you guys!

iamtobi

~Lover of all things Butterscotch~
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Man, it has been WAY too long...

Long story as brief as I can make it: My husband and I moved to Los Angeles in March 2013, after I sold about half of my pony collection to make it a reality. Once we got there, it became abundantly clear that this move only exacerbated issues that I had pushed to the side. My husband...is a manchild, and ridiculously co-dependent. I am a natural caretaker, so I fed into the cycle. For 17 years.

I left him last June. I moved back to Minneapolis. I have been in therapy, and am healing and doing very well. Karma has let me know that I made a wise decision...I am in a healthy, independent relationship with a long-time friend. We live together now, with our best friends, and we have a wonderfully happy household. I got an AMAZING job 4 days after I returned, and have been doing well there for almost a year. People have come out of the woodwork to say that they saw the same issues, and that they are happy for me. I'm back close to my family and friends, and my best friend (who we live with) is having a baby in the next few weeks. It's all very exciting!

I finally feel confident in reaching out and resuming my life. Ponies are kind of a trigger for me because there is a lot of pain attached to the fact that I sold so many of my beloved ponies for a move I never should have made in the first place. I beat myself up about it. But, my apology to myself is to buy those ponies, one or two at a time, until I have made it up to myself. I can afford to, and it's a meaningful gesture of self-forgiveness.

So, that's where I am at, pony friends. Healthy, happy and healing. Much love to you all, can't wait to reconnect! <3
 
Welcome back! And congratulations for taking such a huge step in your life! Unhealthy relationships are so easy to slip into and so hard to leave behind. It took me years to be a healthy and happy person again after I broke my bad relationship cycle. It's great to hear that you have found your happy self again! Enjoy the pony hunt once more!
 
Welcome back to the herd! I'm so sorry you had to go through such an ordeal. Unfortunatley life sometimes can really snowball away from us, so you being able to grab the reins and regain control of your destiny is nothing short of admirable.

I wish you all the best and hope you recover all the Ponies you're hoping for and the wonderful joy they'll bring you!

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Thank you so much! It feels really good to be back. :)
 
What is it about the statement "healing" that sounds so good... -.-

Like it's something I want to do, but am not sure what for
 
Hi, and welcome back to the forum! :flutter2:

I'm happy you got out of that destructive relationship and found yourself in a better place!

Don't be hard on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, and it's especially hard to look at the person you love and realise they aren't what you thought they were. Love makes us overlook a person's flaws, but it can also make us oblivious to being treated poorly by them... it takes a lot of strength and guts to tear away that blindfold, and even more to end a toxic relationship once you know you're in one. You had a difficult but very important decision to make, and you did the right thing. It's not easy to come out of something like that in one piece, you should be proud! ^^

I hope you find your old ponies again, or at least discover some lovely new ones! I got back into collecting during a very difficult period this year, when two of my cats both fell ill around the same time, one with FLV and the other with cancer (the one didn't make it and had to be euthanised, the other is hopefully going into remission after 5 chemotherapy treatments). They took my mind off the pain and troubles I was having and they gave me something to smile about. Even though I'm still upset for having lost my old childhood ponies, there is something cathartic about collecting new ones, and they are incredible healing tools.

Look at their pretty colours and be happy!

:Tex::Fizzy::QB::seapony::Seawinkle::CC::Fifi: :flutter:
 
Thank you, to everyone, for your kind words...and for sharing. Healing is happening with every kindness I encounter! <3
 
Hey there, stranger! ;)

It's good to see you again, I'm sorry to hear you've gone through a difficult time, although it's awesome that things are looking up for you.
- Mimic
 
Welcome back! I'm glad your in a healthy place now. I recently moved out of a unhealthy environment myself. And it feels good. I have a wonderfully supportive boyfriend :)

I used to have a manchild of a ex who was very emotionally abusive towards me and would pitch a fit when things didn't go his way. It was sad. But I eventually wised up. So I'm glad you are in a new happy relationship and a happy household now :)

Congrats on the job! that's amazing!! Plus also congrats to your friend on having a little one!
 
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