Eye Surgery: Lets discuss things we hate to do!

tulagirl said:
Well, didn't go to moms. She is sick and doesn't feel like learning her phone. My dad is going to yell at me because, I didn't make it out this week. She wouldn't let me come either of the two days I had available. What do you do in a case like that? She deserves to not have company if she doesn't want it. He makes her feel like she can't be alone. She does pretty good. Wonder when my lecture will hit.
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You shouldnt hafta be lectured.
 
Leave a Whisper said:
You shouldnt hafta be lectured.
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Yea I know. It is hard when cancer enters the picture. You never feel like its okay to speak your mind because they are so ill. It is this psychological guilt thing, an over responsibility, false guilt, need to please, keep the peace kind of Tulagirl neurosis kind of thing ROFLOL. However, with mother things are totally different. It is a real shame one has to get to the middle of their life to discover the secret to dealing with difficult interpersonal relationships.
 
tulagirl said:
Yea I know. It is hard when cancer enters the picture. You never feel like its okay to speak your mind because they are so ill. It is this psychological guilt thing, an over responsibility, false guilt, need to please, keep the peace kind of Tulagirl neurosis kind of thing ROFLOL.
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I don't think anyone knows this about me so this is basically the first time I have ever shared this with anyone... But... I am afraid of the dentist. Like, I have a phobia about going to get a cleaning. Like I have dreams where the dentist tells me all my teeth need to be pulled out or something like that. And it actually terrifies me when I think about making an appointment. I am not sure when it started but I had this cavity filled and ever since then my tooth is sensitive. I actually went back twice to get them to fix it... But years later it's still sensitive. Maybe that's why I'm afraid, but I've been putting it off for a while now and every time I think about going I'm like "oh gosh, no thanks"and I really should go, but I don't want to. What am I going to do? I need my teeth lol (obviously) but I really don't want to see a dentist... I'm in trouble!

P.S. my mom was misdiagnosed by a specialist so I definitely share the pain of what you go through when dealing with doctors. It really sucks when we put so much faith into people and in return we get burned sometimes :(
 
@cutekitten Oh goodness I dislike the dentist. It took me a very long time to finally get to the dentist with that tooth that had fractured into my jaw bone. I share your feelings on this one. Oh I have had plenty of nightmares about the dentist too, but my worst is PTSD from medical doctors. I have a lot of nightmares of them trying to sedate me and coming at me with needles and horrible instruments to torture me with. (Insert fainting graphic here)
 
Ugh, dentists. I had a very nasty dentist when I was a kid. I'm pretty sure she was a sadist. She pulled a handful of my teeth out for no reason and made it the most terrifying experience. She told me that I better not cry or scream because it would scare the littler kids. I was like 8 or 9! She also put some weird metal stuff in my mouth for, again, no reason. When I finally got to a real dentist they said everything she did was pointless. They removed the metal immediately but I still have issues with my teeth that I fully believe she caused by ripping mine out for fun. The area she pulled from has always been uneven and messy :/ Braces helped a bit but not entirely.

I was terrified for years after that but the real dentists I saw for the rest of growing up were wonderful. That helped a lot to ease my fears, although I totally lost it with fear/anxiety when I had to get a couple baby teeth pulled one time! After moving it took like nearly 5 years to be able to go to a dentist. By that point I was desperate to go because I was terrified of what might be wrong. Thankfully nothing was, just some normal stain type stuff in bad spots that they scraped off.​
 
Ugh dentist :( I have appointment in November and they will be poulling my wisdom tooth out :S Luckily my teeth has been pretty good shape so this is first time for something bigger operation but I still hate the dentist. It is super important to have good dentist that knows your fears and is couraging.. I don't think this dentist is -.-

I'm glad your eye is okay Tula !
 
@Taxel I mean that person sounds like a psychopath. I am sorry what the hay is wrong with that person? How awful.

Oh goodness you still have your wisdom teeth @h1m3. I had mine taken out at 18 years of age. You will be okay. I will pop up there and give you ice cream, tea and tell you jokes. You will be on so much pain medication you won't even remember it. I guess I can take a video and post it on you tube. Tee hee
 
@Taxel Oh no! That is horrible! I am so sorry that happened to you :( I am in the same boat now, I am terrified to go to the dentist because I am scared of what might be wrong, but if I don't go it will be worse, so the longer I wait and if there is something wrong, I am just making it worse.. so when I finally go I am scared they are going to say that it's really serious and ask me why I didn't come sooner, but I don't want to go! What a conundrum. It's nice to hear from you guys and your fears of dentists, I thought I was the only one lol

@h1m3. I am so lucky I don't have wisdom teeth, but I think if you have healthy teeth so far then the procedure will go very smoothly. And you can stay home and eat tons of ice cream!

@tulagirl sorry to hear about your PTSD and your nightmares :( I have PTSD that started with a very traumatic experience, and people just don't seem to know what it's like or they think I am exaggerating... so it really is nice to talk to someone else who knows exactly what it's like. Like when I tell someone I have night terrors and they basically think I am just talking about a bad dream.. it's like no, this is completely different! Even if you explain it, a lot of people still don't seem to know what it means. So thanks for talking about it, it really does make me feel better to hear from someone who suffers from the same thing :)
 
cutekitten said:
@tulagirl sorry to hear about your PTSD and your nightmares :( I have PTSD that started with a very traumatic experience, and people just don't seem to know what it's like or they think I am exaggerating... so it really is nice to talk to someone else who knows exactly what it's like. Like when I tell someone I have night terrors and they basically think I am just talking about a bad dream.. it's like no, this is completely different! Even if you explain it, a lot of people still don't seem to know what it means. So thanks for talking about it, it really does make me feel better to hear from someone who suffers from the same thing :)
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Oh yea the whole night terror thing is something I have dealt with also. We have found the best thing for me is to have a light on in my room. The sweats are really awful. You are shaking and completely out of breath and drenched in sweat so much so you have to change clothes. My mother has them also. It is all part of our lives when I was young and hers extended to earlier experiences before I came along. I have many nights where I dread the night. I actually have dreaded it since I was a kid. I would much rather be in the daylight of the daytime. Sleep is very important for me due to my disabilities. Its a cruel evil that makes even that one escape another horror all it's own. The absolute worst for me is inability to breathe. I have been doing fairly well though lately.
 
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