I came out today

I just want to say, good for you! It's important to be honest with yourself and those who are important to you. Sure, you might lose some friends or hurt that one guy friend, but if they really care for you they will accept who you are and appreciate the honesty. Good luck! :)
 
It's wonderful you feel comfortable enough to come out. It's a huge step and I know hard it can be. Like Teddy said you may loose a few friends. Some people really don't understand how to express their emotions when a friend comes out so they may shut you out because of it. You'll know he's a true friend if he sticks by your side. Even if he isn't to keen on it as long as he's kind about it you'll know he cares. I'm bi myself and I've been counseling LGBT youth for around 4 years now. I know this is a stressful and scary time but it should also be a time to celebrate. This is a big step in you and your partners life together. I think something important to remember is the people who love you, keep them close. The people who are cruel to you don't pay them any mind. Most of the time they don't know how much they can hurt a person and are usually acting out of confusion. I wish the best of luck to you, your partner, and your friend and I do hope everything works out for the best. =)
 
Good for you! It might not be easy at first but it will be better than having to keep such a big secret. Just remember, those who matter won't mind and those that mind don't matter...or something like that :winkpony: As long as you are true to yourself that's the most important thing, some people might not understand but it's best to get it out and move on, your true friends won't care.
 
I'm happy for you! I hope you have a good supportive group of friends around you. Nothing is more beneficial than good friends who accept you for who you are and will help you through what can be a difficult acclimation. You will find out who your true friends are, as it has been said. Sadly, you may be treated poorly by others. This is not a perfect world, and people can be quite cruel. I hope your family as accepted this news with good spirits and continues to shower you with love as if nothing is different. because it really isn't. You are the same wonderful you you always were. This is the beginning of a new adventure for you, one I hope is joyful and free of strife.

My partner and I are closeted, primarily because of her work, and additionally because of where we live. My family is good to us, as are our friends, so aside from worrying about what the neighbours might do (I live in a very rednecky rural area), I have no complaints. We have over a decade of happiness and Ponies! If you ever need a friendly ear, or advice from someone who's lived, please feel free to chat with me!
 
well I know it will hurt to lose some friends but, if they're willing to shun you even though they've known you and been your friend before that then they are not real friends. you could also be surprised to find that you have some true blue friends who will still like you just for you. it must be a scary step to take but best of luck and please don't let the cruel, ignorant and the bigoted bring you down. *huggles*
 
You should be really proud of yourself. My sister came out a few years ago and it was probably the hardest thing she ever did. She totally broke one of her guy friend's heart, but they are still great friends. Now she is engaged to her girlfriend of three years and she couldn't be happier. If your guy friends are true friends through and through, they will stick around and still be your friends no matter what.
 
I don't know you, but I want to say that I am proud of you! As I am proud of anyone who takes that difficult step to come out. It must be so scary, but liberating at the same time and knowing that people can react in so many different ways and not knowing who will be accepting can be stressfull. It could help to talk to each individual person and explain that it's not like you are a diffrent person to the one the know and love, and it's not like you decided to like the same gender on a whim, it's something that is part of what makes you, you and there is nothing wrong with that. I'm not sure why you think you will loose your male friends tho, cause are men in general not usually more accepting of gay women than of gay men? And the other way around for women in general?
Anyway, I hope everything turns out ok for you, it would be great if you could be free to be yourself and keep the people you care for too:)
 
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