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Hey Everyone!
I’ve had to poof recently because of real life L At first it was the ever changing schedules at work, my bosses being jerks. Typical Office drama and the occasional threats of me quitting. Having 2 coworkers leave the department, one transferred and one put in her 2 weeks.
Then on my mom’s side my great grandmother passed away suddenly. The hospitals here suck, the old folks home (cant spell the correct name for it) didn’t call us when they sent her to the hospital on Sept 18th, and the hospital didn’t call us until the 23rd when she had a massive heart attack. They were wondering why we hadn’t been there.. then went Oh my bad.. o_O when they realized we hadn’t been notified. She passed away 2 days later. Got hassled by my boss when I had to miss work for 2 days to plan her funeral and to attend it because she got cremated (btw NOT cheap anymore plus you can prepay which she did and for a viewing not cheap either.) Between my brother and I we paid for the viewing and lunch afterwards, which shocked my aunts who couldn’t be bothered to show up when we sat in a waiting room for 28 hours.
Now we’re packing up the single wide trailer which has $2000 back property rent, we then found out our great grandmother willed it to her property landlord which is ok it needs a lot of work… But if we paid for it we could have the house and to move it. We decided we couldn’t afford it, We have until the 31st to move everything out. What we didn’t know is my aunt did go through the house to “assess†what we should keep. My aunts decided without asking my mom when we were driving to a local restaurant for a lunch after the viewing that everything was to be donated, because they didn’t want/need anything. They didn’t bother looking through all the boxes, we did. My grandmother would hide things, in one of the boxes my aunt “looked through†we found WWII military issued aviator glasses, Zuni silver jewelry, a Raggidy Anne from the 1930s, watches, etc. Heirlooms that she had hidden and nobody knew. I posted a picture of my new windup watch and my aunt actually asked me if I would sell it. I was no… she then said she had friends who would buy it if I ever wanted to.
When I told my mom their plans, because one of my aunts has been insisting she help out so it wont be as hard to move everything to the donation places for us and it would go faster. Mom asked them to stay home. Since we’re paying for the storage, that we would decide what goes where. Which is about 90% of everything we can either use or keep for our children (when we have them) as heirlooms.
From her clothes I plan on making a quilt. Mom said she would help me on that.
So literally my life has sucked these last few months L
 

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Aw man, so sorry to hear all of that. :(

There will be a silver lining for you, though as there is for everyone. :)

It always baffles me how possessive people get over "stuff" when a family member dies. x____x It's like, seriously, what should they be focusing on, here? The fact that the person is gone, or their pile of stuff.

My stepdad kept asking me what I wanted to inherit during his twilight days, and I just kept saying it didn't matter. He had given me everything I needed throughout my entire childhood.
 

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I agree with you Silver for the possessive part. But I also think that's the hoarder in us because my mom likes to hoard a bit. It just upsets us that they want to sell everything or donate everything and not tell us.

When we can use it, our grandmother had sold a lot of her expensive furniture and jewelry prior to going into the home. Basically what is left is a bed, blankets, couch, kitchen stuff like pots and pans, bookshelves, clothes, dressers, and knickknacks.

We were just stunned at the home when we went with my aunts after the viewing to go claim her stuff that my aunts were Oh we don't need her clothes, we can donate this and we can donate that. But got mad when the "expensive" case for toothpaste and some little toiletries was taken. A few of the sweaters I grew up seeing them and they just wanted to give them away. I started to grab the sweaters and start for the door. My aunts just gave me looks of disgust when they didn't understand why I was upset.

My mom had to take them aside and went to fast, just because you guys haven't been around for a long time doesn't mean we haven't. While this stuff doesn't mean a thing to you two but it does to us. And we can use it. We don't plan on selling anything, my aunts we just found out recently wanted to sell her antiques now. We told them no, some of these antiques have been in the family for about 50+ years.

Then what really breaks my heart is her own son, during life wanted nothing to do with her for the last few years of her life unless she offered him month. Who we called while everything was happening casually said, Whelp sounds like shes slipping away, call me when she dies. O_O When she did pass, we had to leave a voice mail and he has never called us back. And its been almost a month. We called our cousin who is his son and he was shocked to find out she had passed, nobody on that side of the family knew and he sees his dad everyday.

I don't get people anymore :(
 

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Yeah, that is pretty crazy. I can understand wanting to cherish/salvage stuff that has meaning.
But selling it all off for personal gain and not caring about others... that does suck.

My brother has both our stepdad's stuff and his real dad's stuff to sort through (both passed away within 4 months), all in one household... he had to fight for his dad's stuff tooth and nail and he wasn't even notified of his passing until months afterwards... after it was all rummaged through.
Now it's all about sorting through, and getting rid off excess stuff.

Stuff, stuff, stuff... had two greedy aunts during my grandma's passing, as well. That was not fun. Was glad when the drama died down. Whenever my mom passed something down to me (I didn't get much) the aunts would complain about how it needed to go to one of them... I tried my best to just stay out of it all~
 
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