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So this is a pretty random topic, but I just need some outside input on this as I have had very mixed opinions from those around me.
My husband and I live in Connecticut currently about an hour away from my parents who live up in Massachusetts. We just had a baby girl which is the first grandchild on both sides of the family. Naturally she is adored and my parents want us to move closer to them so they can see her more often. We are currently putting our house up on the market because we no don't like our neighborhood and want to move somewhere more suiting for us.
Our options are -
We move up north closer to them and pay more than we currently are on a mortgage, in a home that will likely need improvements, while I will have to look for a new job ( I work for petsmart as a groomer and there are no stores there for me to transfer to, plus the job market sucks up there, Luckily my husband works from home so he can work wherever there is internet access. ) I would also have to go back to full time work as we could not afford a home up there without my added income. But my mom would have her dreams of being the grandma babysitter she always wanted to be.
or
We move closer to his family in South Carolina. His grandfather owns a home down there that we vacation to so we know the area very well ( its in Myrtle Beach ) and there are many homes near his for sale that are newly built and completely in our price range as everything is cheaper there!!!! I would also be able to transfer my job, and continue to work part time so I can be with my growing daughter. The neighborhood is wonderful and the weather is obviously a million times nicer than it is in the Northeast ( neither of us like the snow ... )
I don't know how to break their hearts and tell them we want to be down there. I love my parents to death and would love to live closer to them but the area they live in offers us nothing and we will be breaking ourselves to live there. it would be for their sole benefit and that is all. Both of them are retired and it would be very easy for them to travel to visit us but they are stubborn and don't like traveling to new places they aren't familiar with.
I have spoken with them about the idea of us moving and they are very opposed to the idea even though they know the benefits for us. My dad is a contractor and insists on us buying a home near them and he claims he will do the work to remodel it for us, but he doesn't seem to consider the costs of that, even though I know he would help us with it, we would still have a huge expense. We want a home that is ready to move in and doesn't need tons of work, and that is an option if we were to move to SC.
Ugh.. I hate the idea of taking their Granddaugther away, but I Just don't know what to do, they have done so much for us, I hate to break their hearts but I know that us moving down there would be by far best for us!!!
Help me!!!!!!!!
My husband and I live in Connecticut currently about an hour away from my parents who live up in Massachusetts. We just had a baby girl which is the first grandchild on both sides of the family. Naturally she is adored and my parents want us to move closer to them so they can see her more often. We are currently putting our house up on the market because we no don't like our neighborhood and want to move somewhere more suiting for us.
Our options are -
We move up north closer to them and pay more than we currently are on a mortgage, in a home that will likely need improvements, while I will have to look for a new job ( I work for petsmart as a groomer and there are no stores there for me to transfer to, plus the job market sucks up there, Luckily my husband works from home so he can work wherever there is internet access. ) I would also have to go back to full time work as we could not afford a home up there without my added income. But my mom would have her dreams of being the grandma babysitter she always wanted to be.
or
We move closer to his family in South Carolina. His grandfather owns a home down there that we vacation to so we know the area very well ( its in Myrtle Beach ) and there are many homes near his for sale that are newly built and completely in our price range as everything is cheaper there!!!! I would also be able to transfer my job, and continue to work part time so I can be with my growing daughter. The neighborhood is wonderful and the weather is obviously a million times nicer than it is in the Northeast ( neither of us like the snow ... )
I don't know how to break their hearts and tell them we want to be down there. I love my parents to death and would love to live closer to them but the area they live in offers us nothing and we will be breaking ourselves to live there. it would be for their sole benefit and that is all. Both of them are retired and it would be very easy for them to travel to visit us but they are stubborn and don't like traveling to new places they aren't familiar with.
I have spoken with them about the idea of us moving and they are very opposed to the idea even though they know the benefits for us. My dad is a contractor and insists on us buying a home near them and he claims he will do the work to remodel it for us, but he doesn't seem to consider the costs of that, even though I know he would help us with it, we would still have a huge expense. We want a home that is ready to move in and doesn't need tons of work, and that is an option if we were to move to SC.
Ugh.. I hate the idea of taking their Granddaugther away, but I Just don't know what to do, they have done so much for us, I hate to break their hearts but I know that us moving down there would be by far best for us!!!
Help me!!!!!!!!