"Where do you go..."
- Dec 26, 2015
Ok. I missed something about tide pods. What's the deal? Memes? Somebody ATE one?! They're all over and I feel clueless. What did I miss?
@tulagirl you're amazing, you know that?I figured out how to deal with my mother when I was young. She tried the soap in the mouth thing with me when I was around 4. I told her it tasted wonderful and she never did it again. Wink
It was the same thing with the "if you don't pick up what is on the floor in your room, I am throwing it in the trash." She came in tossed my barbies in the trash. I picked up my shoes and put them in the trash. She took the items out of the trash and put them up in her closet and when she tried to give them back, I handed them back to her and said. Nope, don't want them anymore. That was the last time I ever played with Barbie or wore those shoes.
You have to know though that I was an abused child. Any time I could fight I would even if it was shocking, it was my only way to keep my sanity. She was so very mean to me. I had ADD and other problems and instead of understanding my special needs she expected perfection. So, I guess I just got sick of it quite early in life. Eventually, she sought out help with me and the cleaning and the therapist explained to her that with the attention and focus issues which we didn't have a name for back then...she would need to help me. So, we were given a particular plan and it really helped me not get overwhelmed and then, finally I was able to clean my room. That she did right, but not before crushing my spirit.
I love my mom though, she was hideously neglected as a child and was only a child practically herself when she had me. She had no role models for motherhood so, I got all the anger and stuff from her childhood. It wasn't her fault what happened. I see that now.
You found ways to stand up for yourself and stay you. You also accept her, understand why she's the way she is, and do your best to be a great daughter.How is that? I wish I had been nicer to mom after finding out what happened to her. I still struggle with being nice to her. Ugggg