Why? (a little bit ranty)

BabyNightmare

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Why is it that whenever things seem to be going up, something has to drag us back down again?

I was doing really well.

Finally blocked the ex on facebook so he can't talk to me. He can still see messages I post etc but can't chat with me at random. We need to be able to see posts since we're part of the same LARP but he was treating me like we're great friends when I'm not over him yet and chatting like that hurts me a lot. It doesn't help that his new girlfriend (whom he started dating right away) is moving in with him and treats me like we're best friends. ARG! But, I was doing well, haven't had a depressed about him issue all week.

Worked all five days this week and am off for the weekend to Thanksgiving with the family. Fun, even when there's the odd relative you wish wasn't there. :p

Have LARP in a week and am nearly done my All Hallows costume for the in game contest. It looks fantastic!

Was planning to go to Medieval Times with my best friends for a birthday.

I go onto Facebook and send them a message asking when we're going. Don't hear back all afternoon, then notice their statuses...they're all there...at Medieval Times....tonight. The just dropped me out of the planning stages and went instead. Not a word about it to me. Only loads of pictures from the show and how much fun they're having.

It just feels like one little thing managed to break down the good week and I've just crashed right into the ground. I have no idea what happened, and I can't ask them right now because they aren't on, and I don't really know how to broach the subject. This sort of thing has been happening a lot lately, friends just leaving me out of all the big plans that everyone else in our circle is part of. I know I live a bit away from everyone, but I have always found ways to get into town to do stuff when there were plans.

Well, that's my ranting, just needed to get it out there. Soon there will be sleep, and then climbing back up out of the crater my crash created.
 
I am sorry to hear about this. I know how you feel my friends tend to go off all the time and leave me out even if we plan something. Or its the oh I did not know you wanted/were coming thing. Its bad when you work so hard to have a good week and then crash. I have done this many times. So know that your not alone and I am sorry you are having a bad time. Try to think of the good thing coming up like thanksgiving and seeing your family. Hope things improve Hugs.
 
Thanks Ology. I'm looking forward to tomorrow. My mum and I are driving over to my Aunt's for the weekend and we're going to shop along the way, which is always fun.
 
Wow that really stinks! I'm sorry you are having a tough time. That is really crappy for them to do that to you. I would be super angry if that happened to me. Well good for you for making other plans and have fun with your Aunt. Sometimes I find that family can be your best friends. Plus, they are there to stay for good.
 
I'm so sorry! But that is nothing that ponies can't fix ;)
When you go to your aunt's, go look for ponies. You may forget all the problems and go back into happiness.
Never be grumpy
Stay happy!
~Sky
 
It sucks doesn't it? Happens to all of us at some point though and much better to rant it out and let it go than spend weeks rolling it around in the back of your mind.

One of my dear friends forgot to invite me to her wedding a few weeks ago. She rang three days before to ask me why I hadn't got back to her about it and I said she hadn't invited me. Now she has always been flaky so I let it go but because of that there was no way I could go because I'd entered the final tracking trial for the season for the same day! So I went to the tracking trial and had a good day but came home to FB being wall to wall wedding photos and felt pretty down about the whole thing.

Keep your chin up. Let it go and think of it a bump in the road that is going on to something much better and happier. *big hugs*
 
Oh no now :( How stinky :(

About boyfriend. There is always those that jump from relationships to next in now time.. that stinks but maybe there are just trying to cope in their way(?).. I would suggest that you say your ex that right now you really don't want to talk to him etc. and think about would you want to be his friend in the future or just acquaintance or maybe do not want to know him at all. That can make it easier.. maybe. To chear you up, there is many fishes in the ocean to catch ;)

When I was younger, my (old) friends did that same thing couple of times to me also... Firstly I ignored it but when it started happen more often I just asked "what the h*ll!?!why won't you invite me too?". Then it got better. But in the end it was group of sheeps that followed one shepherd, "leader". Shepherd and me weren't that good friends because I wasn't sheep that would follow her aroud without asking anything. I did have my own opinions and I wasn't afraid to tell them.. so she really didn't like me.. After finishing school I haven't been in touch with them and really don't need them. I have better friends than that.
I suggest you to get chin up and just ask why wouldn't they take you with and work it out. If they really are your friends they want to hang out with you. And if you lose them (which is sad ofc) life goes on and you will find new great friends. Everything just needs to time heal.

I'm sure you have some great adventures a head of you! Just chin up! Life sucks sometimse but it can only now go better ;) One chapter ends and new, better one, starts!
 
big hugs to you
 
Sometimes people are thoughtless without meaning to be cruel. I'd just mention to one of the friends involved that you were disappointed to have been left out and see what they say. They very well may have thought someone else invited you not realising that no one had. Hopefully this is merely a miscommunication.

I'm sorry it made you sad though. I've felt very left out myself at times, having to stay home and care for my mum while my friends had fun around me. Now they're so used to me not being able to go, they never invite me, even though I could actually go now. It still sorta hurts my feelings, although I know it's just habit for them now.
 
thank you everyone for the words. It helps a lot to know I'm not alone and that I can rant here safely.

I had a good weekend at my Aunt's, even though it went as it always does when my family gets together. One uncle is annoying and says stupid things, somebody is always sick (two this time), many of the older relatives are drunk and I get the worst possible bed cause I'm the baby. (this year my bed was against the wall and on the other side was the toilet, all night long I heard people getting up and tinkling. BUT there was no fighting this year, everyone was happy, and dinner was amazing.

On the boyfriend front. I've decided I'm not looking for a new one. I'm not clinging to the old one in hopes that "he'll come to his senses and come back to me" either. I'm just going to be me. I've been in a relationship of some sort pretty much my entire adult life, I need to just be me for a while. I've got a really good friend that I can talk to about it all who is really super supportive of the entire situation. He's sort of the only one in the circle who knows how rough it's all been on me, cause I really hate bringing anyone down, and I don't want people to feel the need to "take sides" that often happens when a break up gets "messy."

I didn't find any ponies this weekend, but I found two old glasses from McDonald's that are "The Great Muppet Caper" and I'm very happy with the find.
 
Good for you, BabyNightmare! You don't need a boyfriend to feel complete. One day, when you least suspect it, the person who will make you happy will appear, but waiting around for him wont make it happen any sooner. better to just enjoy yourself and love life!
 
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