Personal success; How do we view it?

[tulagirl]

I am pondering this question after someone I know and care about had their character attacked by a thoughtless person. For me you can see my vote, its all about personal character, but be honest in how you feel. I am really wondering what everyone thinks about this topic. Its interesting the different views. We all have different lives and success for all of us may come in many different boxes. Thats normal. This is not a debate on what is and what isn't the right answer. Its just a curiosity of mine.

 

[evilbunnyfoofoo]

To me, giving back is the best thing I can do to try to help the world around me. In my case I originally started off trying to help people by becoming a psychologist. In the run of my 'career' (I use this term very lightly) I realized many people make incredibly bad decisions and then blame everyone else when they should just man up and take responsibility for themselves.

I became so entrenched in other people's problems I almost drowned in their bad intentions. I quit counseling and never looked back. I had always been deeply involved in taking care of animals, so my leap into rescue surprised no one. My husband had died, so I needed to surround myself with life. I eventually was able to buy this farm, start the sanctuary and really expand operations as to how many critters I could help. It's a small thing, when you think of how many animals are in serious need, but it's what i can do. And I love it.

Except yesterday when Stormy the big mare decided to bust the fence and Action hank and I had to repair the fence in nasty gross mud and the threat of a huge storm. I told Stormy I'd send her back to her abusive owner and she literally laughed at me. Even my critters don't take me seriously! LOL!

 

[tulagirl]

Its interesting that you say this, I went to college to get a PhD in Psychology. I wanted to work with children. I got really tired of the long years ahead of me and just about that time I developed the illness I have today. So, I ended up a teacher. Stormy earned her name well I see!! LOL

 

[evilbunnyfoofoo]

Stormy is such a total butt. We just came in from the pouring rain trying AGAIN to repair the fence. She just busted a new section. I dunno what her deal is. Maybe I should try to talk to her about her feelings... LOL!

I could have never made it for my PhD. I had really started to hate my work long before then. Working with addicts really ruined me. It made me hate people for years.

 

[tulagirl]

Yes addicts are hard because a lot of them really are not ready to change their life. So, when you talk to them there is a lot of denial, lot of excuses and just a tiny amount of fibs here and there. One thing that is sad though is they are really wounded people. Seriously bad things have happened in their past they lost control over and could not handle.

@evilbunnyfoofoo

Lets Psychoanalyze Stormy. Could a very dapper fellow be running around in the field next to her that she can't resist, perhaps he speaks Pig Latin and she loves his accent? Does she have a fear of lightning and feels running away from it is better than sticking around? Does she have thunder/storm PTSD? Is a ferret running around in her enclosure whatever you call it? Is said Ferret a bully and tormenting her? Does she want to reach the Valley of the Unicorns? Is she finally developing her pegasus wings? Perhaps she has an itch? Is she looking for something? Is she addicted to fence smashing? How does she feel about her behavior? ROFLOL Have you looked into her family of origin issues?

 

[LightningMana-MLPcustoms]

Having enough support in your path that your personal intuition tells you not to change it or feel that you should do something else.

Always follow your intuition.

Mine told me to be home for my kids and as I did that I found ways to make money while doing that.

I get torn down quite a bit for it by people who mumbled under their breath while I was pregnant, that they'd "end up being stuck raising my kids".

Darned if do, darned if i don't. So I listened to myself instead and said I'm raising my own kids instead of putting them in hands of people who don't want them around.

And I can network from home while I care for my home and pick up my own kids from school.

No one else raises my kids but me~

 

[tulagirl]

@LightningSilver-Light
You know its so interesting because, I always wanted kids but made the difficult choice not to due to health. I would be attacked at work by co workers or just parents in general constantly bothering me about having kids. It drove me crazy. I wanted to say, "mind your own business." I don't like to talk to people that way so I never did. So, its like if you don't have kids everyone becomes a judgemental, nosey, opinionated busy body and if you have them people become judgemental, nosey, opinionated busy bodies over that choice. Its weird. This world is craaaaaazy. Welcome to the Kingdom of Nutso's that can't make up their mind what they think people should do as if it matters. Good grief. LOL I love kids and love parents and love parents that raise their kids. Am I the only person that doesn't engage in this ridiculous behavior with other women?

 

[LightningMana-MLPcustoms]

I also want to add to what success means to me, is patience, hard work and acceptance of risk of failure and defying those who say you can't do something.

You follow your path you love and loves you, and greatness in some form will grace your life. It can simply be in the form of peace of mind.

People have to be able to overcome those who tell them not to engage in what they love and what loves them.

Pony sales keep going for me cause people keep wanting my customs. Takes hard work to get them out there, but patience coupled with hard work and people believing in what I do, keeps me going.

If no one believed in what I do or wanted it,I would have quit long ago but even when people tell me to quit I have other people practically needing my work.

That there keeps me going.

Always follow what your intuition feels.

 

[pikapal]

For me I think it's getting paid to do what you love what ever it is. Writing, sports, teaching, helping people etc.

 

[Lady Bastilla]

Knowing what is important to you in life, listening to your own perspective, and pursuing those things that truly make you feel happy and secure. 'Success' means different things for different people, and understanding that is the first step to being free to figure out what it means to you.

For me it's about waking up each day with people I love, doing the things that I love, and all the while being the kind of person (kind, honest, etc.) that I need to be in order to look myself in the eye each morning I peer into the mirror and know, emphatically, that no matter what happens that day that I will have no regrets and that I will live for joy.

 

[Gingerbread]

For me it's independence, contentment and happiness. The first 2 lead to the last.

 

[tulagirl]

For me it's independence, contentment and happiness. The first 2 lead to the last.

Oh I agree independence is a good one. Contentment has to be a state of mind. Some people can't be content no matter what they have. Others are content with very little.