Advice on a topic of a sensitive nature

[The Cleo Collector]

I hope its not against the rules to ask this as I did not see it. I am not trying to start anything just get some advice on how to handle something personal that I not sure how to put into words to say to a person.

Ok first off I back story so you know a bit about my family. I have a cousin who is half white half Portia Rican. Her son who is almost 10 is Half her nationality and half African American. My cousin who is closes in age to me marryed a girl who wanted kids so badly but they though they could not have them. So they Adopted three little kids. Two of these adorable kids are African American one boy one girl biological brother and sisters.
They did wind up have one of there on though.
My Cousin wife just had the baby a few weeks ago.

I was speaking to some one and was saying even if they did not have the baby they adopted three wonderful kids. This person said yes but the African children probable resent them.
I was what are you talking about. This person was like they prob don't like that white people adopted them and will resent it as they grow up.

Now what do you say to that. I don't have one issue with mixed families. There so many colors mixed in my family you could paint a rainbow and I am very proud of that.
I think a child adopted by any Couple no matter what there color or gender is a wonderful thing. The only thing I would not like is if the adoptive parent were to abusive the child.

My cousin and his wife are good parents and these kids get lots of love and get to go places all the time. They go to good schools and have a nice house. There grandparent love them and I don't see them much they do live far but I can say they are a joy to be around. Even if they are at that age were they have to touch everything lol.

But I just don't know what to say to a person who say such a thing.
Can some one give me advice?

 

[Leave a Whisper]

Sure, you can tell them :
they don't know what they're talking about
are being insensitive jerks
If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all
Or any variation of zip your lips, that you find appropriate

If they're willing to be extremely rude and negative treat them the same way back and do so in such a way that makes you look like you've got the high road all icy and refined, while they look like a petty, spiteful troglodyte.

Or you could just tell em to bugger off and ignore them.

Seriously? How nasty can they be?

 

[The Cleo Collector]

I did tell this person not to judge people based on skin color and who raised them but they said that people in mixed homes came out hating the white parent this is in a married into type deal or adoptive deal. Kids with two colored parents were also apparently unhappy and resentful as well. I do not know where this person get there info but all I can say is I know they were born in a different era then me but still.

I just don't know how to hand this and it is getting toxic a times so that is why I am asking for advice as my views are very very opposite of this person I know. Its not a person I can just stop being around as I am related to them and I do see them often. I just don't talk to them about these kinda thing. If the subject of the new baby had not come up today I don't think the topic of inter racial children and adoption would have either.

 

[Leave a Whisper]

Hahaha! I'm mixed blood and I love, like, hate and am tepid towards family member based on who they are. Where did these people come from? A Time Warp from the 1900s?

These people aren't worth your time, your cousins time, etc. If they can't catch up with the rest of humanity, they aren't worth socializing with.

That's my two cents dear friend, for whatever it's worth.

 

[The Cleo Collector]

@Leave a Whisper thanks for the advice
I judge people not by their skin or wealth myself. But on their actions, moral, how they treat others, and animals.
You could be the biggest badest mamajamma biker for insist and be all tattoos and leather with a I'll kill you look. But then you see him in reality as a kind granddad who helps out in town and does all kinds of rides with his crew to raise mony for charity. And yes based on a true person.

 

[Tak]

Sometimes if if you're only fostering or if it's a child over 9 they can resent the parents. It works with kids and parents of all nationalities. It can also have to do with the demographic that they're being raised in and how they're treated at school. From what I've learned and been told all the parents can do is make sure that the kids know that they are loved. "True love conquers all" and such.