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Update - 5/27 -
Hey Everyone! Well its been interesting with everything.
First off. Skip's mother is coming out of this cancer looking at a 75% chance at remission. Shes going for chemo in 2 weeks. But she was diagnosed with food controlled diabetes, where she has to really watch what she eats and it was recommended that she lose a lot of weight.
I had posted a while ago that Skip's ex wife having a "meltdown" gave us both boys for the entire summer because it was "safe" at her apartment anymore. She basically would go cause drama with a downstairs neighbor who would retaliate. Eventually a restraining order was given to the woman downstairs against her, She lost her keys and claims that the woman downstairs had stolen them. So she has to replace the ignition and locks on her car. Plus replace the lock to her apartment which should had been done within days after claiming her keys had been stolen. Her father gave her the money to replace both the ignition and locks on the apartment this weekend. EVEN though he is the manager of her apartment complex. Makes sense? Nope. Now that the apartment has been notified they've changed the locks. She wasn't going to tell us, she let it slip. From what I've noticed her plan was to leave the kids with us all summer, and still claim the child support which is pulled from Skip's paycheck and the welfare/cash aide and use it on herself and not the children. Essentially committing welfare fraud. I waved the red flag. Then her story changed to a few weeks, then she would be back to avoiding the subject.
She then claimed she might have cancer when confronted with taking her to the doctors she avoided it. But what really sent me over the edge is, this past Friday Skip had to get a tooth pulled, and she was driving him because they weren't sure what kind of drug they were going to use. She told Skip she would be there at 2pm.. she showed up at noon. Skip had forgotten to lock the front door, she didn't bother knocking, there is evidence she went through some of our stuff on the desk, but nothing missing. Skip and I were fast asleep in our bed, he still works graves and I usually am passed out until noon. I've been sleeping a lot lately. She claims she knocked on our bedroom door. Which is a lie because I am a light sleeper because of the boys knocking on our door, she came right in. She had Skips expensive phone and was on the phone with the cops about her neighbor and asked Skip what his number was THAT is what woke us up. I'm still livid about it. I told him I would be calling the cops personally next time.
So after that intrusion of a lifetime, I finally told Skip he needed to sit down with her and find out what was going on or I was going to be hitting up the welfare office and notifying the police over her drug habits were causing child endangerment because of our work schedules she would have to watch the children for a night. This past weekend after picking them up he discovered she used the last of her money to buy pot and got high with the guy of the week with the children fast asleep. After I him told me this I told him I can get a lawyer on a moments notice. I would have that child custody agreement changed and we would be taking them full time, since that's what she was showing us. This woman claims to a back injury she cant work, according to Skip it wasn't serious, she pulled a muscle and used it as a easy way out of work. She got addicted to pain medications and here we are. Skip spoke to her and she has changed her tune. We are going back to our "old" schedule according to her. Shes actually called us up to discipline the kids because they don't view her as a parental figure, just a baby sitter. They've started to call me mom and they ignore her half the time if I'm in the room. She really saw it recently and she didn't like it. Skip had to tell her, they viewed her that way because her lack of involvement. So that means Summer vacation is going to be fun.
At work we've lost a lead, but gained one that's awesome. And with everything being shifted hopefully soon we'll have a new part timer
Hey Everyone! Well its been interesting with everything.
First off. Skip's mother is coming out of this cancer looking at a 75% chance at remission. Shes going for chemo in 2 weeks. But she was diagnosed with food controlled diabetes, where she has to really watch what she eats and it was recommended that she lose a lot of weight.
I had posted a while ago that Skip's ex wife having a "meltdown" gave us both boys for the entire summer because it was "safe" at her apartment anymore. She basically would go cause drama with a downstairs neighbor who would retaliate. Eventually a restraining order was given to the woman downstairs against her, She lost her keys and claims that the woman downstairs had stolen them. So she has to replace the ignition and locks on her car. Plus replace the lock to her apartment which should had been done within days after claiming her keys had been stolen. Her father gave her the money to replace both the ignition and locks on the apartment this weekend. EVEN though he is the manager of her apartment complex. Makes sense? Nope. Now that the apartment has been notified they've changed the locks. She wasn't going to tell us, she let it slip. From what I've noticed her plan was to leave the kids with us all summer, and still claim the child support which is pulled from Skip's paycheck and the welfare/cash aide and use it on herself and not the children. Essentially committing welfare fraud. I waved the red flag. Then her story changed to a few weeks, then she would be back to avoiding the subject.
She then claimed she might have cancer when confronted with taking her to the doctors she avoided it. But what really sent me over the edge is, this past Friday Skip had to get a tooth pulled, and she was driving him because they weren't sure what kind of drug they were going to use. She told Skip she would be there at 2pm.. she showed up at noon. Skip had forgotten to lock the front door, she didn't bother knocking, there is evidence she went through some of our stuff on the desk, but nothing missing. Skip and I were fast asleep in our bed, he still works graves and I usually am passed out until noon. I've been sleeping a lot lately. She claims she knocked on our bedroom door. Which is a lie because I am a light sleeper because of the boys knocking on our door, she came right in. She had Skips expensive phone and was on the phone with the cops about her neighbor and asked Skip what his number was THAT is what woke us up. I'm still livid about it. I told him I would be calling the cops personally next time.
So after that intrusion of a lifetime, I finally told Skip he needed to sit down with her and find out what was going on or I was going to be hitting up the welfare office and notifying the police over her drug habits were causing child endangerment because of our work schedules she would have to watch the children for a night. This past weekend after picking them up he discovered she used the last of her money to buy pot and got high with the guy of the week with the children fast asleep. After I him told me this I told him I can get a lawyer on a moments notice. I would have that child custody agreement changed and we would be taking them full time, since that's what she was showing us. This woman claims to a back injury she cant work, according to Skip it wasn't serious, she pulled a muscle and used it as a easy way out of work. She got addicted to pain medications and here we are. Skip spoke to her and she has changed her tune. We are going back to our "old" schedule according to her. Shes actually called us up to discipline the kids because they don't view her as a parental figure, just a baby sitter. They've started to call me mom and they ignore her half the time if I'm in the room. She really saw it recently and she didn't like it. Skip had to tell her, they viewed her that way because her lack of involvement. So that means Summer vacation is going to be fun.
At work we've lost a lead, but gained one that's awesome. And with everything being shifted hopefully soon we'll have a new part timer
Wow! The year is flying by!!! I cant believe it almost May! 0 My life has finally settled down from the last few months. But they've been the best I've had in years!
Last year was ending horribly, it started off with my great grandmother passing in Sept. My sister being temp. disowned by my mother and brother, when she moved her online boyfriend in with her after seeing him maybe twice. A week after out grandmother passed away. My mother is a very controlling person and claimed that her doing that she (my sister) should of talked to her and she would of told her it was a bad idea. It was a life altering decision, that affected her(my mom).... I was the only one on my sister's side, even our younger brother turned on us once he saw how angry our mother got. Then yelled a string of disrespectful words towards me when she got mad at him too because he had done something similar in the past and he was trying to play innocent.
So anyways, My sister hadn't lived with us for almost 5 years, she pays her own bills, etc. How she found out about said boyfriend sucked. Through facebook when he posted pics of them together on my sister's wall. I told my sister bad idea, and that I supported her decision, its her life. She cant have our mother even if her intentions are good, rule her life like she used to.
Then after all that my ex un-expectantly passing away in Nov. He was a mentally abusive man, he was extremely insecure with himself and basically brainwashed me, making me believe I was there to support him in what he wanted and if he didn't like what I did, I had to stop it. He would often try to sell my collections for money. He hated my animals. Towards our relationship I finally woke up and started to break it off, when I realized he was just using me. Finally ending it Sept. '10. I stayed in contact with a sister by choice of his who had been kind to me. She notified me. I took it hard, because it awoken a mixture of feelings, regret, hatred, even sadness. But I accepted that he was gone and I was truly free of him, as sad as that sounds. He would occasionally attempt to contact me for money. I ignored him.
In dec, is when everything changed. I met my current boyfriend. My Skip. 0
I was one of his regulars up until May of last year because of work, he works at a local gas station. Last year his wife left him and he got a divorce and was forced to move back in with his parents. A very sweet and caring man with two small boys I get to play momma to now, since their mother is such a screw up. She rarely ever wants them with her, she pawns them off.
I made sure to tell my mother I had been asked out and she approved of him. Which is amazing because shes the president of the I hate men club. She raised us girls not to trust men. After a few weeks he saw how "held" back I was. Like I mentioned earlier my mother is very controlling, borderline about the same level as my ex. I was to go to work, and stay home. Having friends is ok, but don't get close because if I spent more time with them than her, she'd call them up scream at them saying they were using me and to leave me alone because I wasn't allowed to hang out with them anymore. 0 I put up with it. She would borderline treat me like I was stupid. I was never allowed to go anywhere alone, it got to the point she would refused to allow me to learn how to drive. My coworkers were horrified when she came in and told them off for putting ideas in my head about driving. I was too "immature".. I was 24. Now 25 years old.
Wellll She never expected someone to come in and go this isn't healthy. He noticed how fearful I would get and he would baby me and reassure me I was ok. He began taking me home with him. By Valentines I was semi moved in. I saw my mother maybe a few days a week. She had to learn how to deal with me being gone. She did verbally attack a few times. She would call me up and yell at me and accuse me of abusing my animals, because she would claim I didn't water them, and I had to come home asap. Otherwise I would have to end my relationship, because it was obvious he was too "controlling". The first time I was maybe I forgot, then found out they all had water. Then we figured out quickly, she was the controlling one....
Her jealousy got real noticeable because I mentioned Skip wanted to get a pair of rabbits before he moved out and one of my friends who she hates was taking me. Like everyone else she was using "us" and was a liar. Yea no. -_- Even after I told her she wouldn't have to tend them at all she said no, that they would be leaving by the end of the month, still no. I was for reals what is your deal? I flat out said do you want me to be even a little happy? she point blank said no.
Well I got the rabbits, she didn't know they were there for about 2 weeks. Before anyone goes shes your mom, its her house, her rules. Yea about that... it's not her house. It my brother's. And I got my brother's permission to have them there for a few weeks. All she pays is the electric bill and the cable bill. My tribe pays for the rest. Yes we "live" on a reservation, she's considered an outsider. If one of us kids live there, shes allowed to stay there. I told her the rabbits would be gone by the end of the month. She didn't figure I would be too.
I have my part time job, and extra money from my tribe from our business (a casino, I work there too, its not fun) well we were able to move much to his mother's horror. She was using him a extra paycheck to live in a expensive house.
We now live in a beautiful 2 bedroom apartment, with 2 bathrooms and is 966 sq feet We have the 3 bunnies (maintance guy gave us one), our 2 kittens and 2 fish. I'm all good on the pets xP We pay our own bills and I've never been happier.
But during the hecticness of this life I've missed out on a lot of MLP. My boyfriend is extremely accepting of my hobbies and of my collections. He is even willing to watch MLP with me
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