My mother has banned me from Goodwill

xKelpiex

xKelpiex

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She says that buying ponies there would be like stealing from the poor children. She would let me buy clothes, but not toys. And I kinda get her point, you know? But, at the same time, why can I buy everything else but the toys? To console me, however, she's gonna take me to a flea market. Just no charity thrift shops.
 
The ones being sold here are already owned by grown-ups. No stealing from kids here. Just smiled and let her take to you the swap meets!
 
Well, since the money that Goodwill and all of those charity shops make goes to help poor people, I don't see how that's stealing toys from poor children... buuuuut....ok...?
 
Ianthe99 said:
Well, since the money that Goodwill and all of those charity shops make goes to help poor people, I don't see how that's stealing toys from poor children... buuuuut....ok...?
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Yea if anything you are supporting them by helping the thrift store make money. Maybe if you point that out to her and possibly even donate some stuff she will re consider ? :)
 
Just talked to her about it and she said she went to Goodwill today and saw alot of children looking through the toys. She made the argument that older ponies are cuter and she wants a child to experience that magic. I'm good with it, I guess. I can buy from here pretty cheap and we have a huge flea market the next town over. AND I have a job interview tomorrow, so if I get it, I will have ridiculous amounts of money to spend on ponies from you guys lol
 
xKelpiex said:
Just talked to her about it and she said she went to Goodwill today and saw alot of children looking through the toys. She made the argument that older ponies are cuter and she wants a child to experience that magic. I'm good with it, I guess. I can buy from here pretty cheap and we have a huge flea market the next town over. AND I have a job interview tomorrow, so if I get it, I will have ridiculous amounts of money to spend on ponies from you guys lol
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Thats true the old ones really are the best :) Good luck with your job interview tomorrow !
 
Oh, moms! Always finding a way to guilt us into doing what they want, even if it's nonsensical.

Question: How, exactly, does she know the financial status of those kids? They could be very well in the same economic bracket as you, she just assumes they're poor because they shop at Goodwill! Which, uh, doesn't make much sense, because plenty of not-poor people shop there, too. Is your mom gonna set up a toll booth at the front of the store: Must Be This Poor To Enter?

Personally, if it's your money, I would just say to buy what you want. It's not her money, she's not earning it, so she has no say in how it gets spent. (Unless it IS her money, in which case ... she does, ha ha!) That said, I wouldn't go buy any in front of her, either; if she's not comfortable with it, no one says she has to know where the ponies came from, exactly.

Yes, kids enjoy toys, and I'm sure if you leave ponies for them, they will be happy! But kids aren't suddenly more 'deserving' of anything than adults. Do kids 'deserve' to have more fun than adults? Of course not, everyone deserves to have fun! And that includes ponies, I think. Do you have to buy ALL the ponies next time you go? Maybe not. Maybe every trip, you only vow to buy one pony, and leave the rest for the kids your mom is so very concerned about. (Who, BTW, may or may not actually be poor. And are not her kids, even!) Or, maybe for every G1 you buy, you vow to donate some G3s or G1 doubles! Or heck, even some G4s - I'm sure kids would love to get a hold of those for a lower price than in the store!

Long story short - your mom has no right to control the way you spend, especially not based on imaginary poor kids who, according to her logic, deserve ponies but not clothes. :p And on top of all that - G1s might not necessarily be safe for kids who are going to lick/chew on them, since the plastic is SUPER old and starting to break down, in many cases! Is it safe for kids to eat plasticizers? I sure don't think so!
 
Well, since she's the one driving, I'm going to have to live with her decision!
As for my mom controlling my money...she doesn't aaallllways do it, but there have been times when I have become frustrated. I am unable to live on my own for certain reasons, and so I don't pay rent or many bills, giving me quite a bit of expendable money while employed. That I spend obsessively. To the point that I was not able to get home because I had over drawn my credit card by 200$ and overdrawn my account by 25$. SO, I after this little experience, I kind of always turn to her if I want to buy something. She thinks buying ponies is okay, so if she has a small request related to the subject, such as not shopping at Goodwill, I shall respect her wishes. There are alot of other thrift stores in town and a huge flea market twenty minutes away.
The reason I posted was because at the moment of her telling me thus, I was a little frustrated. I'm new to ponies, so the prospect of maybe finding some ponies for a very low price excited me to no end especially as the Goodwill is about 5 mins away. I've come to live with the decision now, however, so....
 
hmm... then you shouldn´t be allowed to buy anything else there either... My Little Ponies are something that collectors are after, specially G1´s... they aren´t made anymore so they are considered antique.... does your mother let children play with her gems in the livingroom? Would she not buy something that she liked becuase a child might want it? Even if it means that the child mostly surtently will break it in the end...?

oh, look at me wondering on... never mind me.... :bathbaby:
 
So, you're saying children shouldn't play with G1's because they might ruin them? :/ Srsly, they're made for children and should be played with by children no matter how old they are. Maybe if they were a seriously old antique, but, y'know...
Anyway, I keep flip-flopping on agreeing with her or going behind her back to get ponies XD I mean, I totes understand where she is coming from, but at the same time, it's just a few ponies, there are tons of other toys for the kids to buy, AND the money would go to supporting a good cause. *sigh* Maybe I should just stick to flea markets.
 
Could it be that she just doesn't support the buying of toys at this point and is using this concept to support that stand?

G1 ponies are not antiques they will not be antiques until they are close to 100 years old. They are vintage toys now. Many people use the word antique not realizing its defined in that way. I don't think MLP will make it that long. My guess is cancer, mold and just plastic breakdown will destroy these toys before they hit antique status. Sigh....
 
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Another thing to consider, even if G1s aren't as fragile/precious as antiques, is that they are ooooooold. All of the laws banning lead and all of those hazardous chemicals didn't come out until fairly recently - no one can even guess what kind of nastiness little kids might get into if they start teething on the 20-year-old, breaking-down plastic in a pony body. @o@ So yeah, although modern kids (above toddler age) can be trusted not to put stuff in their mouth, if they aren't aware of the dangers, they could ingest that kind of thing accidentally. (e.g. holding the pony then rubbing their eyes/nose.)

Overall, I think it's shady that your mom is trying to control you - she's controlling you through your spending habits, but it's controlling behavior all the same. I'm very sorry you have to deal with this. :( I hope you are able to come up with a suitably comfortable way to work it out.
 
I am all for buying G1s from thrift stores, because I feel G3s are close enough in appearance to G1s (despite some design and size differences, they look veeeery very similar to G1s) that kids who like G1s will probably be really happy with G3s, which are more common.

If a kid does prefer G1s to G3s then that's cool with me, but if they are just looking for the nearest pony toy at Goodwill because they like all ponies . . . it makes sense to steer them towards G3s, IMO.
 
I agree with you LadyM....

(and I am SO sorry for not knowing your langues THAT good so I know the word for all things.... what I ment was that mint ponies that are rare should be spared because they aren´t made anymore)
 
Hmm...if Goodwill is only 5 minutes away, why not just bike or walk there? Then your mother has no say in what you buy. =) I think her argument is rather nonsensical.

LadyM said:
I am all for buying G1s from thrift stores, because I feel G3s are close enough in appearance to G1s (despite some design and size differences, they look veeeery very similar to G1s) that kids who like G1s will probably be really happy with G3s, which are more common.

If a kid does prefer G1s to G3s then that's cool with me, but if they are just looking for the nearest pony toy at Goodwill because they like all ponies . . . it makes sense to steer them towards G3s, IMO.
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This.

At least try to buy G1s when you see them. Children will be happy with G3s and 3.5s, fakies, McDs ponies, and all the other toys available to them. And what if you come across a Mimic or Rapunzel or something? Will your mother still say some child deserves to take a pricy pony like that home, just to possibly destroy it?
 
While, I don't necessarily agree with your mother's opinion, I will not tell you to ignore her rule, or not to follow her rule. Lord knows, I would not appreciate people telling my child not to listen to me. Besides, you live in her home yes? Not to get too personal, but do you contribute financially to the household? If you don't, then I say living with this rule is not a lot to ask....especially since you have other avenues to still buy ponies. If you do contribute financially, then that is a different story, because then you would (should) have some say into the rules of the house. Perhaps you could make a compromise with her.....maybe something like G1's = collectibles and not toys, and therefore can be bought. Or maybe a time frame for children to have a chance at them. Maybe like if the same pony has been there for 2 weeks, then it becomes fair game. But in the end......don't go behind what your mom asks. It doesn't seem like a lot....especially if she is willing to drive you to the flea market to pony hunt. Be happy....there have been younger members whose parents have banned ponies all together.
 
Yeah, josiekat, the main reason I am "obeying" her is because I live in her house for FREE. She feeds me, clothes me most of the time, I don't have too many rules, and she gives me the care I need for my mental well being that I would not be able to get living on my own. And to say sorry to me today, she brought me across town to the flea market. My mom just sometimes has these crazy ideas, and I'm learning to just roll my eyes at it, even though at first I get emotional and angry and make threads about it on the internet XD

LadyM--Sorry for getting aggressive. I just don't see why kids can't play with them, and I didn't understand you entirely <3

Long story short, my mom is weird, I have to live with it, but I got ponies at the flea market today! :D
 
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